How Canterbury Christian Students Change Their Behavior
It wasn’t my finest hour. Old school can also mean outdated. After serving in the US Navy, I went on to live in Japan where I stayed for nearly 20 years. During my time overseas America became very P.C. – politically correct. I missed the change. Some things we used to think were funny, are not funny anymore. Or maybe people just stopped laughing. I can’t be sure.
Solomon on Being Politically Correct
The Bible says – “Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul, and health to the bones.” Proverb 16:24 KJV.
But what constitutes ‘pleasant words?’
The same Bible says, the same writer says, “Open rebuke is better than secret love.
Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.”
Can pleasant words come in the form of a rebuke? I think so.
If I close my eyes I can almost visualize the first time I came home from school after someone had called me a name. Looking for sympathy perhaps, (my visualization skills are not that vivid), I cried a little, maybe whined some and told my dad, “Somebody called me a name today.”
“Repeat after me,” he said, “Sticks and stones will break my bones but names will never hurt me.” He walked away and that was that. I never forgot.
Open Mouth Insert Foot
Indeed I have been called names since. Sadly, I have called others names. In jest, I called some of our students ‘loser’ after we announced the Toe standings a few weeks ago. This group was at the bottom. I realized right away that it was poor form on my part and apologized. I really was sorry for what I had said.
Then something happened. Not one student in this group had reached the level to receive even one Toe Token. Just one month later, they ALL had! Everyone of them. They each are making progress now and are lining up almost weekly to get more toes!
Two Responses When We Are Called Names
I certainly don’t advocate calling other people names. I do, however, recommend being a friend. I do recommend not keeping love ‘secret.’ I do recommend rebukes when they are called for. Words delivered from a friend that have our best interests in mind are pleasant words.
When we are called names, we have two options:
- Try to change the world around us = have the world become more PC – our way.
- Learn to have a thicker skin, be more forgiving and make changes in our character when friends who love us prod us to become better people.
Which way will you respond?
A Favor to Ask
I have been tapped to be a guest speaker on Silicon Valley and all things Social Media in February on a cruise line in the South Pacific. I am collecting t-shirts from companies here in the Valley to wear during my presentations. After all, Silicon Valley has turned into a t-shirt culture. A few families have already graciously given me a t-shirt.
Amazon, Facebook, Netflix, LinkedIn, Google, Apple?
Do you have connections with your marketing department? Does your company have a swag store? Can you spare a t-shirt with your company logo? I am happy to pay for it, of course. I will wear it on one of my dozen presentations. Please catch me or drop it off in the office if you can help. You can even call me a name! Thank you very much!